Self-centredness: A Peek Into What Really Lies At O

Let’s start with a tale, shall we?

There was a woman, once upon a time, who hated a man. The man had bereft her of her womanhood; she could not bear a child anymore. She hated the man, and wished him nothing less than an excruciating death. Years passed, and then, one day, an earthquake came near where he lived. The earthquake was massive, and when she heard about it, all she could wonder was whether her desire for revenge was the reason of the earthquake. Was she the reason the once-solid earth turned to liquid, just to swallow that man up?

An image of a woman standing in front of a house wrecked by earthquake in Kumamoto. Image courtesy: The Japan Times

This tale might seem just a teeny bit strange, and truly, it is. I mean, doesn’t it sound ludicrous that one woman’s hatred could cause an earthquake? Logically speaking, it’s an impossible event, and I think everyone will agree with me. Then why, do we keep on doing these things to ourselves?

We live to be in the centre of it all

Don’t believe me? Try sitting for an entrance exam, which at the time of your participation, had an exceptionally hard paper. One of the common reactions at these times will be, “Why is it that whenever I take papers, they turn up to be hard?.” Doesn’t this resonate with the woman’s thoughts of her being the cause of an earthquake?

But this isn’t all, as our self-centred view goes beyond that. We all know the famous story of Galileo, where he was accused of heresy and was put into house arrest when he proposed his theory of heliocentrism (the sun being the centre of a galaxy, instead of earth). Every major religion had stated earth as the centre of the universe, with other heavenly bodies revolving around it, and it took a long time before everyone accepted the undeniable fact that our earth is not the centre of anything (except maybe for the only sentient living form, for now). Truth hurts I guess.

A well-suited man admiring his reflection in the mirror, with his head tilted towards the mirror. Image courtesy:

From religious dogmas to personal solipsism, we always tend to feel that we are the source and the destination of everything. Our desire to be the centre of it all is present both at an individual and at a collective level, which goes as far as cosmos itself. If we can escalate up to cosmic levels, then we can do it at personal levels as well. These thoughts can range from relations with other people, to the events which are out of our control. We are the reason for everything, for the flubbed friendship, for the downfall of a company, for everything, good or bad.

But it’s not true. Far from it.

Nope, the radius does not originate from us

Yes, we are a world unto ourselves, and it feels terrific to be the centre of everything. Sadly though (for all you narcissists out there), we are a part of a greater entity, and we are not the whole and sole reason of everything. Not everything we do has consequences on everything in our life. If bad things happen, they happen. Let them go.

And yes, others do take priority over you. This one was for you all self-centred people out there who think the world of themselves.

As a small end-note, this article was centred (hah!) at the people suffering with depression. Be glad if you don’t get what’s written.

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Anurag Yadav

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